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However...I am not learning to write up my thesis...!!
I think my boss is the nicest boss one can have!
I wrote out all my ideas in crappy English, and she cut them up,
re-unite them, like a beauty surgeon, rebuild your nose, your breast,
your head, you lips.
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1129 神跡的開始
| 感謝上帝！第一晚11月29日公開福音盛會，無論天氣、交通、燈光、音響配合非常暢順。 入場人數亦出乎意料，約二萬八千人，而決志亦達到2,000人，大會統計比例佔6.3%，看見上帝奇妙作為。 而元朗場座無虛席(5,000位全滿，未用草地)，決志人數有250人。澳門情況有待消息。 昨晚決志區站滿了決志者和陪談員，甚至四週連出路都站滿了人。幸得球場合作及通道安排，使決志過程非常順利。實感受到上帝奇妙帶領。 11月30日下午青年場及第二晚公開場將加開南華球場。 今日12月1日下午親子場及第三晚公開場將加開馬會場。請繼續代禱支持。 |
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Catholicism - I had always agree with Catholic teachings but had not punch hard into my longing for TRUTH. Looking back, I had not get in the depths of it, I guess.
Tin Toaism brought me new insights about life, and the trivility and ephemerality of existence. Good deeds and extensive customs of it are taken up by me as my vow of committment to the religion.
I do not need to earn it, like being a vegetarian, or by virtue/deeds/going to church.
This is truly profound for me.
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Hey Gar,
Forgotten to say :
I am very greedy ga.
So I want 3 boxes of your very creamy nice candies!!!!!!!!!!!
he he he
Thanks ah. My mom likes them too!
Cheers,
Let's pray for the overflow and the overflow arrangements of our Hong Kong Graham Festival!!!
為佈道大會爆滿之安排禱告（羅華明牧師）
http://www.do-this-prayer.org/hkfgf/video/070729/729_13.wmv
地 和 其 中 所 充 滿 的 、 世 界 、 和 住 在 其 間 的 、 都 屬 耶 和華 。詩 篇
Psalms 24:1 The earth is the Lord's, with all its wealth; the world and all the people living in it.
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Yesterday, before mid-night: I am very grateful that I have COMPLETED all 5 assignments la!! The other 12 assignments I have delayed, 2 of them due on 9 Dec; my first Sun Lecture on Marriage on 9 Dec too!!! Then 10 assignments due on 30 Dec... a Great relief for me indeed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now I am left with my Biggest Task. Something which has always been my bottleneck. My difficulty.
I know God have given me enough strength, given me enough training, to be able to get it DONE, to think through and write all of them out LOGICALLY.
I am sure I do not get it Beautifully done, nor would it be perfect.
JUST put down all the ideas that I have in a Logical way will do!!!!!!!!
It is a hard job. I have to put in traumendous efforts. But I have the ability, just a hard, it is totally possible.
I am NOT allowed ANYMORE time. I cannot allow myself that. I am to live with this time limit and so THIS lower quality. Just readable and sensible will do. No Grand Things!!!!!
I have done NOTHING so far today. And I am hungary now, have to eat. Just finish it quick.
I still have a full-day lesson tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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In your opinion, what is the best way to build a strong sense of self or self confidence in a child?
The best way to build a strong sense of self and self-confidence in a child is through accompanied exploration of the child to different experiences and interactions with people.
Accompany and exploration are the two key ingredients in my proposal. Exploration is easy to understand and has been proposed by many: the child’s active role in exploring of possibilities for himself/herself in the social environment and different settings. He/she can experiment with the approaches as to how to understand, process, and react to a variable of situations.
Accompanied exploration has a special significance in this exploration by the child. A caring adult, best to be the caretaker or the parent, is the resourceful and knowledgeable person to be by the side of the child in his or her exploration, and can offer help when the situation calls for it or when the child asks for it. The child, with the strong and caring backup, and a security base, can be free to explore and bold to explore the environment. To the child, he/she can then build up his/her autonomy in a safe environment.
The success and the art of this rest on when the accompanying adult give a freehand to the child, observe while not intervene, or when to provide hint and assistance, and when he or she does not offer help even when asked to and yet give encouragement, so when the child can finally accomplish the task, he or she can take all of the credit and build on his or her autonomy and self-confidence. In addition, it also depends on when the adult should intervene even when not invited by the child.
The key lies in the assessment of the accompanying adult about the ability and the zones of proximal development of the child. Adult in this scheme should also learn to trust that the child can explore and accomplish himself/herself if something is within his or her zone of proximal development, and yet he or she has not yet accomplish it. Many researches have shown that children, if given minimal cues, can breakthrough into new accomplishment if it is something within his/her zone of proximal ability. For example, children who have not yet accomplished conservation according to Piaget’s theory, can be easily overcome the difficulty by some hint. So adults should also learn to let go of their control or eagerness to have their children to breakthrough, and give a bit more patience and thoughts to what hints to give, as the adults should not take away the opportunity to learn themselves without being told. Children can see for themselves what they can do on their own, and have more confidence of their potential and abilities, and also be able to feel their own limitations. This is because having a clear sense of one’s limitations, strengths, and potential are crucial to the development of self-confidence in children.
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In your opinion, what is the relationship between adherence to traditional cultural values and parenting style?
The results of Xu and colleagues’ (2005) study showed among 97 Mainland Chinese mothers stronger adherence to traditional cultural values, such as Confucian beliefs about socialization goals and societal virtues were associated with both authoritarian and authoritative parenting styles, and the findings supported the notion that in traditional Chinese mothers, these two parenting styles are not mutually exclusive of each other, unlike in Western parents. In particular, adherence to collectivism, conformity to norms, emotional self-control and humility were significantly associated with an authoritarian parenting style. Adherence to collectivism and conformity to norms were also associated with the authoritative parenting style. Xu et al. (2005) suggested that Chinese mothers who adhere stronger to these traditional values might use authoritarian parenting style to training their children to be righteousness, trustworthy much according to the traditional moral code in Confucianism , which might seemed too dominating and insensitive to children from a perspective that does not value collectivism and Confucian values. In my opinion, the authoritarian parenting style, in the social context dominated by adherence to Confucianism, is taken by the parents at least, as their way of expressing affection, care, and interest in their children, and to express their sensitivity and provide stable secure interaction with their children.
I consider traditional cultural values as heritage and context in which parents learned what is expected of them when they were a child, have a personal experience of how effective and the impact on their lives and growing up, and then provide the model for them to relate with their children when they become parents. The virtues and behaviors stressed by the cultural values would usually be adopted by the parents in the way they train up their kids, the goal of their discipline. And from this particular goal, parents can still adopt the appropriate parenting style. For example, in Chinese culture, knowledge and wisdom is highly stressed, and parents implemented this cultural value in the educational concern for their children, and a focus of their parenting. However, that choice of style is by no means free from the influence of social context, and personal experience of the cultural heritage. For most parents that have been brought up from a family that emphasis filial piety and hence parental authority, they are very likely to use an authoritative parenting style to foster the educational development of their children.
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How would you describe your parents' parenting style? What kinds of discipline were used in your family? Do you, or would you discipline your own children in similar or different ways? What would you advise other parents about disciplining their children?
My parents had very high demands and stern disciplines on their two children, my brother and I. They stressed fairness and equality between siblings and so their demands were equally applied to both of us. We were not allowed to stay overnight at anywhere outside home, not even at close friends or relatives’ home, or camping. The restriction still applies now, only it is slightly more relaxed. We were not allowed to have any coca cola, coffee, English tea, which has caffeine; and not to say cigarettes, although my father smoked quite a lot before he passed away. We must be humble and polite, respecting and obeying parents and teachers’ words. We must wear slippers at home, and wash hands when we get home. We had to try our very best at school, must not made any careless mistakes in our test and exams, and this meant that I would be beaten up if I got marks below 95/100, and for my brother below 60/100. The difference in marks reflected my mother’s understanding of our different abilities and therefore different benchmarks, but to us the same level of difficulty.
Upon questioning, when we can explain themselves, if it was determined that we did not comply to the rules or parental authority without good reasons, this would resulted in physical punishment on arms and legs by clothes hangers, or a slim bamboo stick specially made for children’s physical punishment that housewives can easily buy from groceries; or by chopsticks. For safety reasons, my parents would not allow physical punishment on the head, face, or body trunk. Therefore, in terms of control, my parents were parent-centered rather than child-centered, and they demanded absolute compliance of us to their parental authority, but my mother was based on different ideology from my father’s. The difference in ideology was related to parent’s sensitivity to children’s needs.
The rules were set by my parents with little or no discussion with us; therefore, they are parent-centered. However, these rules were what my parents thought were our needs. Therefore, these disciplinary measures, together with their providence of food, shelter and care were their expression of parental love and sensitivity. For my father, fulfilling his children’s basic needs in food, shelter, and education was his biggest responsibility, our most important needs. Being the father, head of household, and the only provider of these vital needs, he reminded us of these roles often, he has the authority to decide for us, over-ride our wishes, and to demand from us obedience and high performance in return. His reasons for any discipline or rules were taught to us and lied down onto us without a question. As a child, I remembered them as absolute teachings, and thought that these were all I need, and did not realize I need anything, especially psychological needs. Therefore, I would consider my father quite insensitive to our needs, and that I was also unaware of my needs too when I was a child. My father would decide for me whether I should take up an instrument, or a language, or what school to go to before my secondary school. He decided that I should go to learn piano, and then seeing that my homework was too much for me, he decided that I was to quit.
My mother also demanded complete compliance, and parental love was also not overtly expressed with affection, praises, but through her care and discipline. She had a different ideology of claiming authority from my father’s. She firmly believed and taught us that her commands were to our best interest and benefits in the long run, and as children, she could understand that we might not see it because we did not know what it would be like when a child grow up, and what a child needs as he/she grows up to be a useful and industrious adult. I cannot explain, but I trusted her, so I mostly felt very guilty when I cannot complied to her, and agreed with her physical punishment, as she has clear reasons whether she applied them, all physical and non-physical punishment, eg, not being allowed to watch TV because we had not finished our homework in the agreed time. She was actually stricter than our father, and because she was very much involved in everything we did and in our daily lives, we received more punishments from her than our father. She used most of her time on our disciplines and with time I also benefit a lot from having a good self-care, studying habit, perseverance in academic work, politeness and humbleness in my relationship with peers and adults, under her strict discipline. Her rules and punishments were very much tailored to train our specific routines, and what we need to develop as a child, and relevant to our likes and dislikes.
I would therefore consider both my parents authoritarian, in that they both have high demands and lack of affection. My father fitted better in this category as he might be quite insensitive to our needs too. However, I would consider my mother an authoritative and authoritarian parent, because she was also very much involved and cared about in all of our lives as a child, and very responsive and sensitive to our developments, abilities, and yet non-expressive of her affection, and weighted low on our psychological needs.
As an adult now, I am more and more grateful of my mother’s discipline and shaping of my abilities and as a responsible person. I truly did not think children can decide for themselves at small age, what they need, and even what they like, as they have not been exposed to enough to know their abilities and tastes. I agree that there is a range of abilities and propensities in every child and they can be shaped during children in directions that would foster accomplishments and a responsible attitude as an adult. My mother put a lot of emphasis in her disciplinary design to shape our language development, and I have to say, that is the best access I have now, and it would be very difficult to re-develop that area in adulthood. We have sensible mastery of English and Chinese, and this could not have developed from my likes or dislikes as a child.
I would recommend parents to be sensitive to the abilities, likes and propensities of their children, and yet they can still shape their children accordingly with reasonable and clearly communicated rules and guidelines.
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朋友,
今日同福的何牧師第三堂崇拜續講Rev 2:8-11 [至死不渝的忠心][Not til death shall we part our loyalty]. 背景是不認皇帝的神就要殺, 士每拿教徒及主教多被殺或收監及財物被擄, 忠心至死. John encouraged them, DON't GIVE UP. 苦難的日子有限期, 生命的冠冕無限期.
最令我入心的是: 牧師講Satan的三樣weapons:
1) Arrogence驕傲;
2) Jealousy妒忌;
而最勁的是
3) 叫人氣餒而至失去勇氣的小針, 時不時 令我們感受短暫的痛楚而不想再站起來
Needle of discouragement --> timidity
Alpha 和Graham Festival 都快開始了, 我們不要氣餒呀, 繼續不住的為福音對象禱告呀!!!!
a) 11月30日 有葛福臨... 29/11-2/12
b) 12月7日 真理堂有金培達 信仰分享會
c) 12月8 日 真理堂有Alpha 聚餐, 讓人去一次過決定報不報15/12 Alpha Course 的第一堂. 去了第一堂後再決定是否去下一堂. 所以大家可以廣邀人來Come & See, 再決定.
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Only two of the 7 churches not being scolded by Apostle John:
你要寫信給在士每拿教會的使者，說：‘..我知道你的患難和貧窮，但你卻是富足的。...你們受試煉，你們要受患難十天。你要忠心至死，我就把那生命的冠冕賜給你。...得勝的，決不會受第二次死的害。’
And to the angel of the church in Smyrna say: .."I have knowledge of your troubles and how poor you are (but you have true wealth...you may be put to the test; and you will have great trouble for ten days. Be true till death, and I will give you the crown of life. ..He who overcomes will not come under the power of the second death.
(Text in English & Chinese in case Chinese cannot be decoded. 有中有英是讓中文有亂碼情況可知一二)
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